I've always wondered why people seem to make such a big deal out of gay relationships, especially those that lasts fairly long. Except for the fact that thew couple in the relationship are gay, there is nothing unique about it that needs to be taken seriously... a long-term gay relationship shouldn't be based on sex alone. It should be about helping and nurturing each other. Each party should should have something to contribute in the relationship. What is amazing about this relationship is that we accept each other for what we are. "Tolerance" is not the word that i'm searching for, because it means to endure and to put up with. Acceptance is more like it--the recognition and acknowledgment that we are two distinct beings-- in a relationship that is unique and special not because it is "same sex," but because it is that to my partner and myself.